When you
distribute your phone number to a potential bedwarmer, what are your
expectations? Wouldn’t it be logical to provide instructions along with the number?
Why begin the relationship with ambiguity? Why test the man before the first
date?
After
exchanging a few witty (brushing my nails on my shirt right now) Match.com emails,
I received a reply that contained a phone number. This baffled me. I was flattered
to receive the number, but I didn’t know what exactly to do with it. Yes, I realized
the intention was for me to use it to call her. My confusion concerned how and
when. I put on my smart cap and decided the safest thing to do was send a text
message asking what was best time for me to call. Gosh, sometimes I wonder how
I fit all those brains in my skull.
Then my
phone rang.
I allowed
it to go to voice mail because I was on the treadmill and wasn’t in the mood for
a face-plant, plus I didn’t want all my panting to scare her away.
“Hi,
this is Missy from Match. I thought it would be nice to talk on the phone
before we meet. So, give me a call when you get a chance and we can chat.”
When I
called Missy, she lectured me. This made me and my curiosity shrivel.
“I’m new
to this online dating thing. Tell me: Is it normal that guys get a number and instead
of calling send more emails and then a text message.”
“Um,
normal?”
“Just
trying to figure men out.”
“Well,
let me ask you this: If I called you seconds after I received your number, what
would have been your impression?”
“I don’t
know. I guess I would have been flattered and seen it as a sign of high
interest on your part, much like providing my number showed high interest on my part.”
“I see. Perhaps
you could have left your number with an asterisk and a note specifying a best
time to call and the fact that you expect a voice call.”
“Really?
I need to be that specific?”
“Or, you
can be vague and disappointed, which will result in an awkward conversation
with a man you’ve only met in two dimensions.”
“I didn’t
mean for this to be awkward. I’m only asking.”
“In the
past day, how many text messages have you sent and how many voice calls have
you made?”
“Yes, I
text my friends more often than I call them.”
“Hence,
my decision to send a text fell in line with your tendencies.”
“It’s
just so impersonal, especially when first meeting.”
“I
understand and had I known your expectations I would have met or exceeded them.
Now, let’s put this behind us, cupcake. Would you like to meet?”
“Um,
sure, I guess so.”
Please
don’t analyze me. I’m old and tired. I won’t chase you unless you’re coated in honey
and powdered sugar. Point me to your pleasure buttons and I will comply.
